Ignore Critics: Overcome Fear and Ignore HatersApr 21, 2023
It is crucial that in an endeavor you Ignore Haters. Failure to ignore these nay-sayers will start to build self-doubt in your mind. This self-doubt will lead to fear and that fear will immobilize you. The funny thing about fear and self-doubt, they are self-created so therefore they can be self-destroyed.
Overcome Fear and Ignore Haters
Take my advice here...
If you are thinking of turning on the camera you may be faced with some level of resistance and procrastinating, but you know that being on Youtube can and will help your business, but you feel vulnerable and are worried about what other will say about you on video.
Imagine this. Imagine you did not care and you did this and it had a super positive impact on your business. Simply, stick true to your core values and be authentic, flaws and all, then just don't worry.
If they don't like you they don't need to watch you.
Conscious Effort and More Human Moments
Starting to create videos for social media and marketing can be a daunting task, especially if you're concerned about what others will say. It's natural to want to receive positive feedback and validation, but the truth is that not everyone will like what you create. However, this shouldn't stop you from pursuing your passion and sharing your message with the world. Remember, creating videos is not just about pleasing others, it's about expressing your unique perspective and creativity. People say there will always be critics and naysayers, but don't let their negativity hold you back.
One way to gain confidence as you start creating videos is to study the work of others in your field. There are countless creators on platforms like YouTube who have built successful brands and audiences, and by analyzing their videos, you can gain insights into what works and what doesn't. However, it's important to remember that you shouldn't copy or imitate others, but rather use their work as inspiration to develop your own unique style and voice. Youtube has created hundreds of millions in sales for real estate agents. Are you there?
It does not need to be Perfectly Produced
It's also important to keep in mind that creating high-quality videos takes time and practice. You may not get it perfect on your first try, but don't be discouraged. Keep practicing, experimenting, and learning from your mistakes. And remember, People say the opinions of others do not define your worth or talent. Focus on what you enjoy creating and stay true to yourself, and eventually, you will find your audience and success. Youtube Keep in mind that the most successful creators on social media started just where you are, and through perseverance and dedication, they built their own successful brands and careers. So, stay focused, keep creating, and don't let the fear of criticism hold you back from achieving your goals.
Take a few deep breaths
STEP 1 – IGNORING CRITICS
When you grow in business and in life you must continually take inventory of the circle of people that you are around most. It is said that you are the sum of the 5 people that you are around most. Why is that? When these people influence you with their words and actions. The subconscious is very receptive to everything that is happening around you and controls your movements, thoughts, and ideas.
Some would say that your cells eavesdrop so feed them positive thoughts. I agree but to go deeper you need to control and reprogram your subconscious. Being around a circle of friends who are supportive, positive, and have integrity it will help you become a better person in those areas as well. Within my own journey, I removed everyone from my life who did not believe in or support me in my ideas. By replacing these people with others who believed in me, pushed me to do better, and forced me to be better in all areas of my life both in business and personal realms.
Most often people criticize because they are fearful of the person doing it or doing it themselves so they try to bring everyone back to their small level.
STEP 2 – THINK ABOUT IT AND SO YOU SHALL HAVE IT
This is crucial and may sound a little crazy, but often time the crazier the more brilliant. In fact, this concept goes way back to Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.
Before we become we must believe. What does this really mean? Simple. Every single day you get dressed for work. Wear nice clothes that make you feel good and look professional. Act properly in public as other successful people do. Always be on point and ready to converse and convert. Walk the walk and talk the talk. Once you start to feel like a successful business owner then you will become one.
Again following heavily on step 1. Do not care what the critics say. Do what you envision, what you feel is right and it will become so.
The universe has a funny way of knowing what you want and need and if you strive for it, it shall be provided…. Eventually
STEP 3 – OVERFEED IT
While I would love to say I mean chocolate chip cookies I don’t. I mean knowledge and positivity. Every single day you need to be feeding some form of motivation or positivity into your ears and mind. Please do not say you do not have time…. You have a ton more than you think.
With a cup of coffee in the morning, listen to 5-10 minutes of something positive. Download an audiobook and listen to a chapter every morning. On your drive to the gym or office. At lunch, so much time. If you take 5-10 minutes per day away from email, social or texting and just close your eyes and listen, amazing things start to happen. Once you start to elevate yourself internally and follow steps 1 and 2 you will start to develop confidence that will win over a crowd, win more listings, and build businesses worth having.
STEP 4 – SELF AWARENESS
When I became aware of myself, my strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities, and deficiencies I was able to then either adjust or focus in a laser-like way. I had many long conversations in the mirror with myself. Yes literally looking at myself talking. See you can lie to everyone except yourself looking at your eye to eye.
While on this journey I found how important it was to let go of so many things that were holding me back. Once I accepted these things in my life they no longer were an issue that held me back. This self-awareness taught me what I am good at, what I like, and what I want to do. Then I focused only on that and I either let go or delegated everything else.
The Secret Power of Self Awareness is Leverage
Example of this. I dropped laundry off at Wash and Fold, hired a bookkeeper and assistant, have a maid come once per week, had people do my marketing and digital ads, etc. This frees up a ton of time from doing things I hate to do and suck at giving me more time to focus on the things I am good at and enjoy doing.
This also allows me to accomplish more because I create a manageable rhythm with leverage of other people, systems or tools. Using Trello to keep and track these rhythms is super helpful and keeps me focusing on writing my weekly article, research an idea or concept, record a needed video or communicate with my team with out thinking about it non stop. Not being distracted from the tasks that keep us moving forward.
As you grow you will encounter many people who tell you that you should quit, don’t take the risk or a rash of negative comments. Do not accept any of it! We are all scared at some point. Have Fun, Turn on the Camera and Stay Confident...
In the end, the only failure is regret.
Til Next Time,
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